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If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late: A Divorce Lawyer's Guide to Staying Together

If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late: A Divorce Lawyer's Guide to Staying Together


cbr10, , macmillan, favorites, Nonfiction, Psychology

Hard-hitting divorce lawyer James Sexton shares his insights and wisdom from the front lines of divorce to keep you out of his office and improve your relationship.

If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late. James Sexton knows this. After dealing with more than a thousand clients whose marriages have dissolved over everything from an ill-advised threesome with the nanny to the uneven division of carpool duties, he also knows all of the what-not-to-dos for couples who want to build--and consistently work to preserve--a lasting, fulfilling relationship. Described by former clients as a "courtroom gunslinger" and "the sociopath you want on your side," Sexton tells the unvarnished truth about relationships, diving straight into the most common marital problems. These usually derive from dishonest--or nonexistent--communication. Even when the alleged reason for separation is one spouse's new "personal trainer," there's likely a communication problem that predates the fitness kick. Symptom and root cause get confused all the time.

Sexton has spent his career working with spouses-to-be-no-longer. Reverse engineering a relationship can help to identify and fix what does not work. Ever feel like you're holding back criticism of your spouse because you just can't have that fight right now? Sexton will tell you to "Hit Send Now." Maybe you aren't as adventurous as you used to be, or need some "you time," but for some reason it seems weird or exhausting to change up the routine now. Sexton knows where that mentality leads and offers viable alternative paths to take. Though he deals constantly with the heartbreak of others, he still believes in romance and the transformative power of love. This book is his opportunity to use what he has learned to help couples that aren't so far gone get back on track.

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  • Janelle

    Well, this was a terrifying read. I can see why the author says he doesn't get invited to cocktail parties. (He does, however, point out that he still gets invited to weddings. So there's that.)James ...

  • Carin

    Come for the entertaining stories about divorcing partners, stay for the simple, practical advice for staying together and working things out.James is a divorce lawyer in New York City. He's one of th...

  • Danielle

    This is a how-not-to book, not a how-to. I liked his frank tone, common sense reminders, and juicy stories of bad behavior ;)...

  • Amanda

    I received a copy of this book from a Goodreads giveaway. I liked that this book had a very different perspective than most marriage advice books. The stories were funny and there was some interesting...

  • Britt

    4.5 stars. Being a pragmatic person (for the most part) I found this book insightful and helpful, especially if you are invested in your relationship and as James poses make it thrive: "... marriage i...

  • Ashlie

    A couple interesting points and potentially useful relationship building techniques. A bit depressing view into marriage itself in america, albeit honest. I need a romance novel chaser lol. Would reco...

  • Naeemah Huggins

    Finally someone who speaks my language. "The romance in the movie the Titanic is bullshit. I feel the same way about Romeo and Juliet and other such tragic love stories. At least one of the parties di...

  • Zhuo Zhang

    very piratical advice with a lot of interesting stories. ...

  • JTRyan

    Entertaining, how not to......

  • Anna John

    This book is more of a what not to do. The author is divorced himself and has a very “divorce is usually the answer” approach to relationships. But this book is very entertaining and the stories o...